Let It Go

In all aspects of life we see nature reminding us that letting things go or moving on is constant. Our season's transition and with each one we must prepare our mindset for leaving a comfortable place and becoming vulnerable to what comes next. What's my point? Point is that your child will grow up and move on and letting him/her go is healthy. Men and women come in and out of your life and no matter how much you want them to be more in than out...some of them will move on.

A great teacher once taught me that what you love the most, must be freed and part of the point of having that person remain free is to receive the gift in returning. If it is meant for that special loved one to return, they will and when it isn't...its not a loss if you keep the lessons. It is far greater to have freedom love than enslaved love. Freedom love allows for individuality, it allows for honesty, it communicates clear enough for comprehension and needed space for growth. Enslaved love has restraints/conditions, it manipulates, omits the truth for personal gain, mind games occur just to keep you in the loop of a false sense of love and being monitored constantly may occur. Beauty about this life is we can make a choice once we are clear. Make sure you do your best to keep your relationships healthy and when a loved one goes in or out...you will still wish them well.

MONEY MATTERS

I had a conversation recently with a guy who shared that some women are more concerned about getting money from men as oppose to building relationships. Here is my take on those types of people be it male or female. How you make money is your own choice and if a person is willing to be used then so be it. I personally think it makes more sense to have a partner assist you create your own money opportunities rather than go the easy route by having him hand you c-notes/cash.

 Specifically in love relationships prior to marriage, it seems more wise to invest in creating money for yourself and when/if the mate you are intimate with can increase your wealth by teaching you something or sharing creative endeavors, both parties win. Relationships nowadays seem to be expiring at a quick rate so why bother setting up dependent relationships by persuading him to give you an "allow"ance. He will have strings attached to what he "allows" you to do when money is consistently given to you. Rules come with money given so freely and a portion of your freedom may come with it too. Try the more liberating side...making your own money and having him assist with your business ventures. It is much more liberating to have your own idea, build confidence by starting your own company and have him help network, spread the word, elevate your business sense or be supportive.

When a man takes time to teach you what he has acquired and open up his network to allow you opportunities, it is far greater than him reaching into his pocket and giving you money. I know if he can make time to help me build wealth he and I may be adding to a solid foundation in love if all other things align. They say, money ruins relationships and in many ways the lack of knowledge about money matters can have your relationship struggling! So, do you want to be treated like a child and be given an allowance or grow up and handle your own money affairs?